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I have heard all different opinions on this matter. I know where I stand but since this is a topic that is so varied from person to person I would love to hear what you lovelies think.

Let me start off by saying that I like my body, I like who I am, I love my curves, and I am very comfortable in my own skin. It's no secret though that I am a big girl. I am Plus Size and not to mention pretty tall for a woman. I'm not ginormous but I am up there. Usually it's very blatantly obvious that usually I am "The Big Girl of the Room".


Now I know for some people it might be a little awkward when I point out that I am the Big Girl but since I am comfortable with that fact I like to cut people to the chase who might not have my best interest in mind. Most people seem really not to care too much. It's true. When I was younger kids were pretty mean and didn't really censor themselves but for the most part I have never encountered (too many) people who have pointed that fact out.


Maybe it's because society has taught most people to censor what they would really like to say and just be polite instead. Or maybe people just are intimidated by me. Maybe they are afraid that if they do point out that I am (::GASP::)... FAT then I will lash out at them. Heck... I would be intimidated by me too! I am 5' 10" and almost 300lbs. Get me mad enough and I could take anyone down. Remember though, I am a lover not a fighter! ;)
 

My whole point is, I tend to crack jokes about my size. I don't do it because I hate myself or my body but I want everyone to know that I am comfortable with who I am. If they ever do decide to point it out it's already been said and I am already aware. It's not like I am living in denial. I figure I should just get that out of the way and make everyone else feel a little more comfortable with "my situation". After that is out of the way and everyone is on the same page people seem to be a little more relieved!

People get all uptight when the word Fat is used. It's not a bad word! It's not the nicest word to use but hey, some people are just plain.... Fat. What are you going to do!? Just like some people are White or some people are Jewish or some people are short. It's a fact. You can't hide some things from others. It's nothing personal, it's the truth!


A few years ago I wouldn't dare say or do anything to "reveal" my size. I would just kind of hang my head down when size came up. Now I OWN my size. I am ok with it and not afraid to showcase it. It took a long, long, long time to be ok with my body and have the confidence that I have now. This didn't happen over night.


A lot of people might think that maybe it's a defense mechanism and that I am insecure with myself if I have to announce my size, or joke about my size with everyone else. I beg to differ. I am super confident and I just prefer beating everyone else to it. That's all! Do I absolutely looooove my body? Am I confident every single day? No! Absolutely not. It's a lot of hard work to like yourself but it's even more hard work to LOVE yourself. Yes, there is a difference. I am still young and I am still getting used to myself. It's going to be a while before I can say I am in love with myself. For now, I really like myself. We'll leave it at that. There is always room for improvement!


So lovelies, what's your take on this issue? How are you different? Do you guys do the same thing? Let me know. Leave your comments below!